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Everyone has that one person in their friend group that always likes to stir the pot. That person who loves drama and tells everyone everything... as if it is a feat to know the most information.
"Gretchen Wieners knows everybody's business, she knows everything about everyone. That's why her hair is so big it's filled with secrets" You know that... yet you still trust them with things because you would like to believe that they are different with you. Got a friend like this? I know that friendship is so important. However, keeping the right friends is even more so. Sophomore year of high school I was a part of a really destructive friend group. There were four of us. We referred to ourselves as the Pretty Committee and I am pretty sure that we are the only people that referred to ourselves at that. How highschool, right? We always sat together at lunch, we had a ring leader, one day we even wore pink on Wednesday. Let’s call our ring leader Regina George because it was just as cliche as that.. Uggs were a big no. Aaron Samuels, the boyfriend, made that huge mistake once. He wore these to Regina's Sweet 16 party and was heavily reprimanded for doing so. The flowers that he brought for Regina didn’t even make up for his fashion faux pas. After telling Regina that getting mad at Aaron was unreasonable, I was banned from the group. God forbid someone disagreed with Regina. My best friend and I, after our freshman year, had definitely had our fill of drama to last us the rest of highschool. We wanted nothing to do with this girl. She was the type of person that would talk about each of us to each other and expect none of us to repeat anything. What she didn’t know, was that my best friend and I, because we lived together, would tell each other everything at the end of each day, that she had said about the other. A side note, this may not have been the best idea because it caused a lot of built up anger. I would like to thank Regina George, though, for saying everything she said. It allowed me to learn a strong lesson about trust. My best friend and I swore to that day that we would never do what she did to us, to each other and we never did. I am so lucky that to this day she is still my best friend and we have upheld that promise 100 percent. If I could give any advice to anyone who has a friend like this… they’re not worth your time. Surround yourself with people who will help you up, not bring you down. I know that may seem obvious, but I think if we are all honest with ourselves, a lot of our choices in life are more superficial than we think. Being in the popular group may seem more important than having true and long-term friendships. Let me tell you, it is not. The short-term gain might be rewarding but the long-term consequences that come along with hanging with the wrong people are not worth it in the slightest. Growing up, my mom always told me, “Anything you don’t want everyone to know, you keep to yourself.” It took me a long time to really internalize this. Thankfully, I can say I have met some people I fully trust. XOXO, Em |